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Do You Have a Problem? Let’s Constellate It.
by Yildiz Sethi. Published in Innerself, April 2006 issue
Are you always wishing that things were different? Saying “what if?” Criticizing your self? Wishing that things could be different in your relationships? Would you like to be able to communicate with your partner, family members, work colleagues more easily and effectively? Would you like to feel more comfortable with your self?
Imagine a situation where you could look at a personal or business issue by setting it up with representatives, so that you can observe the dynamics visually and experientially
It is like an out of body experience. Even better, you don’t have to have the people of your problem present. Now imagine that once your situation is physically represented, that an energy field develops that the representatives can feel and respond to. From this point onwards, the facilitator works sensitively with the representatives to unravel the dynamics of the situation, so that you in particular, are more comfortable and able to experience a new perspective on it. Now imagine that the resolution found, through the representatives, causes a real shift in you emotionally and also at a deep soul level, so that the situation for you becomes more comfortable and harmonious. Imagine that the resolution filters to those people of your issue that are not present. This process is known as Family Constellations, as developed by Bert Hellinger in the 1970’s and is now being practiced in over 25 countries and more recently Australia. Bert Hellinger is a German psychotherapist who is now eighty-five years old and has spent the last 25-30 years developing, practicing and teaching family constellations. This is a system based on love.
This process might sound hard to believe, a lot of “hokus pokus” or a bit “airy fairy”. However, it’s hard to deny family constellation’s profound effectiveness in causing healing in family relationships and emotional issues. So much so, that psychiatrists, psychotherapists, psychologists, counsellors and others in the medical or mental health professions have been sufficiently fascinated by the process to have flocked to experience and learn the philosophy and process of family constellations from Bert Hellinger himself, in his workshops and trainings. These have been taking place in Europe, America and Asia over the last 25-30 years. Hence this process is spreading rapidly throughout the world.
Family Constellations is a very different way of looking at emotional issues, family dynamics, relationship and business issues, that takes into account that a person is an individual as well as a product of their environment, family or group system. In addition, it allows that they may also be affected by generational influences as well. Family Constellations does not attempt to blame others for the situation we might find ourselves in, but rather to see the bigger picture of yourself in the group. Hellinger describes it as a phenomenological process.
It is quite different to the more traditional approach of counselling. In personal counselling an individual is normally seen in isolation of their family or environment. According to family constellations, a family is connected by group energy, or a “collective consciousness”, which Hellinger calls family soul energy. According to Hellinger philosophy, it is often the collective consciousness of a family, which has disturbances from individuals of previous generations which is unresolved or un acknowledged, that is taken on by ourselves or our children in the present. In this way we may have such things as, depression, a range of illnesses, suicides or any other type of deviant behavior or emotional state, being passed down the generations. Family Constellations seeks, to allow the present generations to be free of these past influences, by acknowledging their existence and uncovering the love connections. This is done in an intuitive, sensitive and gentle way. This is not psychodrama.
Family Constellations is a wholistic therapy, which is a difficult phenomena to understand at a purely intellectual level, as this cannot explain the radical shifts that take place for people, who do their constellations. Rather, we need to appreciate ourselves as complex, intellectual, emotional and spiritual beings comprised of both physical matter and energy. Energy as Einstein stated in his famous E=MC and also as quantum physics is claiming now, is at the source of everything in the universe and is constantly interchangeable with solid and biological matter. Perhaps we should be prepared to acknowledge that our knowledge is still very limited. If some processes work, but as yet the “how” is not clear, then perhaps we should be able to say, “so be it”.
In family constellations, once some fundamental principles are acknowledged such as :
- The natural order of the system allowed to be re-established
- The individuals, that have been excluded are acknowledged
then basically, an acknowledgment of “what is” and the uncovering of love ties, is often all that is needed for healing and integration to take place. The purpose of Family Constellations is to uncover the dynamics and allow the person to be in tune with their personal and family soul or group energy.
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